We all know forgiveness is a virtue. But sometimes, it is so hard to forgive and forget as the hurt is so deep, since it might be coming from several past lifetimes. In my contemplation and practice of forgiveness, I have also found the hardest thing is not to forgive others who have hurt me, but to forgive myself for whatever happened. On the surface, I couldn't forgive somebody for what he/she did to me, however, in contemplation, I found my non-forgivness is actually rooted in my not being able to forgive myself because deep down I was blaming myself for allowing the hurt happened.
Blaming oneself is ultimately an issue of not loving oneself. Now I see the logical relation here. I must first love myself, instead of blaming/hating myself, then I will forgive myself for whatever hurt was done, and further I will forgive others. Lesson learned.
To not forgive, is to give power to whatever that is inside of us that is eating away our being of happiness and we thus become the hostage of an attachment to negativity.
To live as a free soul, is to live in the NOW, i.e. to not hold onto any attachment that keeps me looking back. Nothing can stop me from having my freedom becuase I AM A FREE BEING.
To understand everything is to forgive everything. – Buddha
This is the continuation of an ongoing conversation with healing angel Celestina, who is identified as part of the Akashic Wisdom Keepers, my personal Guidance Team.
Celestina’s Message: To hold onto the hurtful or negative actions of others is to continue to give them *reality* and also power. This is not to imply that certain actions or events did not in fact occur, but to free you up from the harm associated with them. Shame and guilt are ways that the truth of your being has been hidden from you, and a part of the disconnected aspect of 3D reality has supported very well. We refer to this as part of the “Great Forgetting,” that occurred when you became embodied here. As part of your return to the great Celestial Heart is to offer forgiveness for everyone; including yourselves, and to hold fast to the Truth and Light of your being that eradicates all illusion. This is the deeper meaning of “Forgive them Father/Mother, they know not what they do.” This is not to be said in a sense of superiority or judgment over others; but with the knowledge that beings are at different levels of their own understanding, and that there once was a time when you also may have experienced a lack thereof.
It is true that just a slight movement of mind is needed to be in a receptive state of forgiveness, but the road that paves the way for mind may be arduous, as it enjoys to “keep score,” but this does not have to be so necessarily. Just as you are not defined by your negative actions, ultimately you are not defined by your positive actions either. Positive actions however, are a true reflection of Source Divinity within you, while negative actions are not. From a certain view there is no definitive positive or negative, there is only being. Of course, there is karma that is created from all volitional action, which is why “right view,” and positive intentions are important.
To wonder “why” certain events or experiences have occurred is another aspect of Mind that is constantly judging, comparing and analyzing for its comfort. Another powerful aspect of freedom is the freedom to simply BE. Would it really matter all that much to “get to the bottom of things?” For Mind perhaps, but to the Soul, it is not essential information. There are times in Akashic/Soul level healing work when causation may be revealed to assist in the cleansing and healing process. This is also likened to exploring past lives. This information is often best utilized in a “need to know” manner, though this may appear frustrating to Mind which is endlessly curious about such matters.
The Divine Self rests in eternity without gender, name or form. It has taken a physical form as you for a time. To best honor the Soul and your essential Self is to forgive ALL. As in, holding close to the unreality of the physical world for any kind of ultimate or personalized definition.
The way out so to speak, of hurt feelings and emotional suffering is to understand this: to stop being defined by your past experiences. Ask to be shown the truth of who you are, and it shall be granted unto you.
Heart Healing Meditation & Transmission
1) Go into your Heart Chakra center.
2) Visualize a Golden Key (or simply intend this if you are not a visual person.)
3) Imagine that this Key unlocks the deepest doorway to your Celestial Heart. This action produces tangible Grace and eradicates all Fear.
4) Breathe into your Heart space, intending that your Heart is now aligned with the Heart of all creation. All friends, all foes, all sentient beings are here. Feel the Rose Pink and Golden Rays imbue your entire being with their Love, Light and Freedom.
No one is against you and all are ONE with you. You are Love itself. You are free.
I am Celestina and I love you. – 2.18.13
It does not have to be complicated, and is quite simple really. If you have done harm to another in the past; offer remorse (not guilt,) for your actions, in a spirit of setting things right once again. If you have been harmed by another, offer them compassion and unconditional love, releasing all resentment from your being. They may or may not accept this and in truth, this is really not of your concern. It is the spirit and intention of your desire that matters most. Shanti. – The Keepers, 2.1.13
I’m sorry. Please forgive me. I love you. Thank you. – Hoʻoponopono Cleansing Mantra
© Irma Kaye Sawyer 2013. Please feel free to share these messages as you are guided with author and copyright information included. Thank you.